Sunday, July 11, 2010

Squabbles

My parents have been married to each other for some 25+ years. Dad and mom is very sensitive. Their egos get hurt easily and we get to see a fight once in 3-4 weeks. They recollect all the fights from DAY 1 and they blame each other.

The next day they won’t speak to each other for some time. Soon they team up together and we children get the scolding.

During the inter parent shouting matches my dad used to compare our household with the neighbor. They have a loving dad, smart mom and ever smiling kids. We never heard blood chilling shouts from their house.

‘The lucky man!’

A few days ago ‘The lucky man’ started growing a beard. One day my brother told me that everything is not sweet in the neighboring home. He started drinking and sister says the nagging wife is the reason.

My poor dad has no one to compare. He isn’t so desperate to start drinking and 55 isn’t a good age to start.

Successful Marriages aren’t made of fight-free life. It’s only when the tempers flare up that we bare ourselves out completely. So small fights are good once in a while. The ‘success’ is how well we patch up.

9 comments:

BK Chowla, said...

Those couples who dont fight dont love each other.
It is a big relief when the two make up

Mingled Minds said...

fights if occur once in a while is perfectly fine, but evry other day fighting is surely a weak brick between a couple.....!! i had never supportd people who say fights are gud for a relation as it some day would finally lead to frustation dn the only thing u would want is running away as far as possible...i hav done it ..tz y... :) :)...

u get intresting topics to discuss bout friend...like it ...

cheerz!!! gdmrnin...
:)

Jon said...

I can not agree that you will find a perfect fit always...even if you have known each other for years..

There will be gaps and success is how well you adjust

Happy Kitten said...

It is good that u have realized this great truth at such an early age..

yes.. marriage is all about how you adjust and learn to accept the faults of each other..it is an eye opener to one's own faults.. the faults which one wouldnt admit otherwise. nd fights are inevitable.. else one of the partner is either stupid or deaf! but constant bickering can be stressful.

Rachna said...

Marriage is all about the fights and the good moments. When two people are in an intimate relationship like a marriage, how can one avoid quarrels. As long as the couple knows how to make up, and most importantly how to have differences in opinion with dignity i.e. no abusive behavior -- Aal izz well!

To cement our relationships, we need to share the good times as well as the bad.

$$ said...

I absolutely agree! Even last night, I had a fight with my brother; however we patched it up successfully when he walked away with the TV remote and I - with his mobile! :P None of us had any complaints! :)

Jon said...

heh he would have surely regretted in allowin u to walk away with the mobile

Tys on Ice said...

behind every failed marraige is a coward....be urself and have the courtesy to accept the other as themself and u have a relationship that has a possibilty of working out...

tieing up 2 people of different genders together thru the tactics of society influenced docturines are unnatural but there is comfort in the thought that for once u are forced to look beyond urself ... somehow we evolve in the experience ...its a possibilty ...u can also digress... there seems to be always a flip side to everything

Jon said...

Yea...very true...the ultimate test lies in when we can make out the difference b/w digress and evolution